Ideal Profile (but from your perspective)

First off I would need to see a pic that shows off the majority of someones build. I'm not here just to judge facial attractiveness or need to be able to recognize every stranger if I see them on the street (plenty of people need privacy and will show those they want to meet, but don't need to provide j/o material to everyone who happens by their profile), but I do need to know if we are a good match for each other. Just a face or just a chest is no better than just a calf or knee. Also it should be within the last year or so. Main pics that are 10-20 years old is just intentionally misrepresenting yourself.

Secondly, real guys can easily provide details about their past training or experience. A short, one-sentence profile or one that's too vague and general is a big red flag. It suggests they have never left the world of fantasy, have no details to provide, or just have no concern with how they present themselves.

Having some past opponent who can vouch for you is helpful but not 100% necessary. Plenty of us who have been around a while have met people off different sites, people who are no longer active any more, etc. Some assume they know way more than they do (or can) from the number of past opponents (some highly trained guys can have few, while some who just engage in erotic play/fantasy may have a ton) so a high number doesn't correlate with a ton of skill necessarily, but if you have been on years, having a least one person who can say you do what you say you will is helpful. Being on a decade in a major metro area with no past opponents can be suspect, especially if no references can be provided though another method like email or related site.

I do like when someone is very clear on their attire preferences or the level of sexuality they are looking for in a match up front... it just saves time in knowing if someone is a good match.

I hate when people list boxing as an interest, but then refuse any fight where they might take a punch to the face. "Gut punching" is not boxing.

I'd also tell people to keep in mind that a profile is partially about selling yourself to others, not just all about what excites you. Not big on being messaged by people who ask question after question about me, but provide no information about themselves.

Also the most important part about profiles, is ACTUALLY READ THEM! Especially the "Introduction" section. Don't message people based on a picture and location alone, then act stunned when they aren't into whatever you are proposing. Respecting their preferences is important if you want their time and attention.

Valid points. I just had his dude last week do this ending bit on introduction you're speaking on. He reached out about a match, and the style he mentioned is the one thing I don't do which I clearly state and then insults what I do. That's how I knew he just looked at my pic was just like yep a match. People want things they can't have but never read if it's available or obtainable for them.

Amen to that. Even though I'm pretty clear that I am into boxing matches, with people close in stats, who are in (or passing through) my general region... historically the vast majority of messages I get are from guys nowhere near my size or location, who expect me to jump on a plane, fly across the country or world, and go wrestle them.

They often say "nice profile", which just means they like the pictures, because they clearly haven't read the profile at all.

A lot of them treat the site like some kind of on-demand, escort service where if they like your look, you are expected to just go anywhere in the world that is convenient for them and engage in any scenario they dream up.... even if you haven't reciprocated their interest at all. Then when I turn them down or ask where they got these weird entitled notions in their head, out comes they start hurling accusations and insults.

That's why reading and respecting the profile is so important. Saves a lot of time and effort and helps people avoid the negative element on here.

Yep, all of that.

I agree with much of what has been said and just want to add one more item: Update your pictures!

Many guys have posted pics and kept them as the only pics for years, sometimes ten years or more. That pic is not you today! Being honest about the wrestler your potential opponent will face is important.

Updating your profile and your pics regularly, minimally twice a year, is important as far as I see.

Thanks for reading!

Agreed, every year you should have some kind of update. Also, if you're not active, just say you're not active and instead of making it seem like you are and then when someone reaches out you're like "yeah I don't really do this anymore."

I agree with a lot of what’s already been said. For me, profiles with unique or catchy user-names, pictures displaying a variety of wrestling gear, and Introductions that tell a story about the members’ wrestling interests are the ones I gravitate towards. I will also check out any blogs that give insights to the members’ wrestling experiences or philosophies. If I am interested to set up a match, then the number of past opponents and the recommendations are important pieces of the puzzle. I am happy when a member randomly clicks on my profile and reaches out, and I hope he feels the same about my random clicks. I am still a rookie on MF and need to catch up to the veterans on the site!

That's a good perspective. Well, I hope you're able to have some fun on here since you're new man.

I can't believe nobody has mentioned this but PICTURES. Virtually every prospective opponent wants to see you in action. PERIOD.

These pictures ideally include you in action in previous matches. This simply builds respect that you actually are the wrestler / fighter you claim to be, not an underwear poser with 500 pictures of you in everything in your drawer. That's okay as a supplement, but not instead of match pics.

Virtually nobody wants to interact with profiles without pictures. Also, what the hell is up with people redacting eyes and faces? No. You are either proud of wrestling and ready to let the world see that or you are scared of everything and everybody, let alone scared of meeting to fight.

That's a fair statement, the only thing is, the other opponent sometimes is not really up for pics and things like that. Some are private about this.

But I get that with the just constant pics of just you in whatever cause then it feels like an Instagram-ish type thing.

A profile that gets attention is going to have proximity and flexibility. If you expect to make connections you either need to be near wrestlers who want to meet you or be able to travel some distance. Being able to host is a big help as well. And the more interests expressed in your profile that others may share and find interesting will also make the profile one that gets more attention. And good pics are almost essential. Finally, getting good recommendations is a big help that guys like to see. It shows other guys that you've already taken steps toward finding out what you really want to do.

The best profiles are just ... honest. Tell us, quite simply, what you like, what you are looking for.

In a new profile, "wdfytrcxbpvgyib45*%" in the further details section is deeply unhelpful, suggesting you just wanted to get access to the photos etc and won't be meeting anyone any time soon. Similarly, "will fill this in later" STILL there after three years' MF membership is probably not a good look.

It's also good if, when you say you like, say, and just to take a random example, headscissors, you make it clear whether you want to squeeze, or be squeezed. Or both. It may save some time, some fruitless messages, and some misunderstandings.

I'd like to think we are a warm, open, tolerant and welcoming community. Hope this is helpful.

Different aspects of likes/dislikes are also helped by the prudent use of separated paragraphs so we can see each idea and thought clearly. (Well done on yours ;) )

Good, clear, simple English (or your mother tongue) - yes please.

But not everyone is comfortable writing - least of all at a length needing paragraphs.

So I go back to my first comment. The best profiles will be

HONEST
SIMPLE
CLEAR.

I'm sure it's been discussed a bit but it's always nice to have an overview of this given how often new people join and how some people have issues in meeting with people, etc. What would you guys say is an ideal profile? I'm not asking what's the perfect profile because nobody is perfect, I'm asking if you were to look for a match, what's makes a profile stand out to you when you and make you want to reach out or challenge for a match?

I would give my answer, but you guys know that already. I'm more interested in hearing other people's answer, I love learning how you guys think on here. I think it's also good to note what are the red flags of a profile you look at for the sake of education and safety of others.

And maybe recommendations of how people could better adjust their profile. When I first got on there, I was telling my experience with some people and they have me suggestions to make to my profile, I did it and that made a big difference with people taking me more seriously and not like some pretty boy or something. I mean I didn't come on here to be pretty, I came on here to see who's got the stamina, lol. So having helpful and respectful opinion can be very helpful. That's what this post is about, not comparing one to the other so let's not bash each other and being negative in the responses. It's just a conversation, not a house of representatives debate.